There are some good nuggets in here。 I did not agree with everything the author says but I appreciated the general concepts。 I listened to the audiobook and it gave me some good pointers for being patient and understanding with my children。 Some things I found a bit ridiculous。 For instance， the author suggests paying your children money in order to get them to talk to you at dinner。 Um， no。 If they can't be bothered to SPEAK to me over a FREE dinner that I make for them in a house that they liv There are some good nuggets in here。 I did not agree with everything the author says but I appreciated the general concepts。 I listened to the audiobook and it gave me some good pointers for being patient and understanding with my children。 Some things I found a bit ridiculous。 For instance， the author suggests paying your children money in order to get them to talk to you at dinner。 Um， no。 If they can't be bothered to SPEAK to me over a FREE dinner that I make for them in a house that they live in for FREE， I don't think that I need to bribe them for the privilege of their conversation。 I'd sooner revoke some of those privileges than pay my way into their lives。 The author does believe in revoking privileges in measured ways。 I'd sooner do that than pay my children to speak。 Then again， I don't have a particularly troubled child so maybe I would resort to this if I did。 I hate to judge but for the kids I've got， they're not getting paid to contribute to dinner conversations。 I liked the tips for dealing with complicated situations with empathy and understanding。 I also liked the scaffolding metaphor。 It seemed kind of hokey at first but the author brings it home in the end。 It was a worthy read， although I'm glad I did audiobook for this one。 I might have lost patience with the physical book。 。。。more